How to play: Use this as an opportunity to learn more about your guy and try your craziestsex fantasies. Take turns playing the classic game, making sure your requests really reveal what you want.
Why: Turns out Truth or Dare shouldn't have been left behind in middle school. Sexpert Dr. Ava Cadell, author of The Power To Mindful Love And Sex, says any couple can make it a very sexual game that leads to lots of laughs, fun, and carefree lovemaking.
Variation: Take your dares outside of the bedroom and get down to business all over your house.
What You Need: A hat (or small jar or bowl), small pieces of paper, and a pen
How to Play: Each of you will write down fantasies you have yet to share with your partner, be it having sex in a certain part of the house or trying out a new position. Put the slips of paper into the hat, then take turns unfolding them, one by one. (The next step, obviously, is executing them.)
Why: Sharing fantasies will you bring you closer together, and you’ll get to try out a whole bunch of new, super-sexy things.
How to play: Pick a time interval — 20 minutes, let's say. For whatever interval you choose, tease each other with kissing, touching, and other forms of foreplay. But no matter what, absolutely do not allow penetration until that much time has elapsed.
Why: Most busy couples have foreplay down to a science, or rather, a routine. "Time Bomb" refocuses you on the pre-game show, the part that used to be so much fun before you lived together. You'll be surprised by how much slowing down changes things. You get really creative and really turned on.
You need: A hairbrush, riding crop, or just his hands.
How to play: Tell your partner all the things you did wrong today. (You failed to take your coupons to the grocery store. You forgot the name of your new receptionist at work. You told your adolescent son to go to hell.) Then kneel on the bed. Your man spanks you using his hand or a hairbrush or a not-too-scary disciplinary accessory.
Why: Spanking feels good, actually. A smart smack on the butt creates a tingly, alert sensation that combines well with the other feelings of sex.
Variation: The sensations are especially interesting if he combines them with playing with the other body parts on display during your spanking. This is an excellent time to try inserting avibrator.
You need: A big towel or blanket and a bottle of massage oil or cream.
How to play: Spread your towel on the bed or carpet and grease each other up with massage oil — legs, torso, breasts, everywhere. Now roll around for awhile and... see what happens.
Why: You will really be surprised at the difference a little lubricant makes in the feeling of skin on skin. Sure, it's a little messy. But worth it.
Variation: If you have a favorite secluded spot, this is fun to do outdoors, even on your own patio.
Tip: Don't put mint or eucalyptus oil on sensitive genital areas. But if you have a non-irritating lubricant, greasing up the sexual equipment can be part of the fun. But remember that oil-based lubricants, including massage oil, can degrade latex. So don't play this game if you're using condoms or a diaphragm.
How to play: Blindfold him. Lead him to the bed or other locale. Then proceed to ravish him — slowly, recklessly, teasingly — however you feel like doing it. You call the shots. Let his arousal be your guide.
Why: Not being able to see during sex has two major effects—it dramatically increases both sensitivity and psychological vulnerability. Either one is a powerful aphrodisiac (maybe you've heard of Fifty Shades of Grey?
You need: A car and a parking spot where you won't be interrupted, like your driveway and your garage late at night.
How to play: Have sex in the car. Pretend that one of you is a virgin. The other is going to teach him or her how it's all done. Give a step-by-step lesson on how to use hands, lips and other body parts to stimulate the teacher. Part of the game is to correct and improve technique as you go along.
Why: First, it's a blast from the past in the best way. Second, you find out things your partner likes that you didn't even know about.