They have a defined sense of what they're looking for

“If you don’t know what you want, you’ll never get what you want.” It’s shocking how many daters do not think about what they really want out of a relationship — and I’m not talking “tall, dark, and handsome.” I’m talking about the type of partnership that would make them happy, the values they’d want to uphold in a relationship (like complete honesty or consistency), and the nonnegotiable deal-breakers (be it religion, politics, shared interests, or other things).

While it was very common for me to find daters who hadn’t thought a whole lot about what they wanted in a relationship over the long term, it was very rare for me to find a divorced person who hadn’t challenged themselves to figure that out. If you’re looking for a stable, compatible relationship, ask romantic prospects what they want; if they can’t tell you, then they are likely further away from real commitment. Often, divorced men and women have a better idea of their needs.